It was a realization that mirrored his own.
Josh hadn’t gone to war, and he was clear about that distinction. Veterans had experienced a powerful sense of purpose, only to lose it. Josh didn’t have that same experience. What he did know — intimately — was darkness, despair, and the ache of waking up each day with anxiety and hopelessness.
On different paths, they had arrived at the same question: how do you keep going when the bottom falls out?
He remembers Thanksgiving that year, sitting at a table where everyone went around saying what they were grateful for. When it came to him, he passed. He couldn’t see anything worth naming.
He knew what it felt like to live with anxiety, to wake up with a knot in his chest. And he knew what it felt like to long for something more.
Eventually, Josh knew something had to change. He stepped away from work and told his mentor, Mort, that he needed time to figure things out. Mort encouraged him to take it — “three months or three years, you’ll work it out.” So Josh set off on what he called a walkabout, traveling light, staying in hostels, and walking for miles each day. It wasn’t a holiday; it was work. Reflection, journaling, reading, and confronting the shame he had carried for years. Little by little, he began to learn self-forgiveness.
From Bali to Virginia, he found himself drawn to water. In each new place, he waded into oceans, rivers, and lakes, unconsciously washing off the residue of years of regret and shame. At a Native American ceremony in Arizona, he stood on the element of water in a medicine wheel and was told it signified forgiveness, not just for others, but for himself. That message stayed with him.
One small symbol kept reappearing: the ladybug, which he first connected with at his grandfather’s graveside after his mother whispered for a sign that he was still near. Years later, during a moment of heartbreak in Berlin, he looked up to see a lone ladybug clinging to a lampshade.
To him, it became a reminder: you’re not alone, keep moving forward.
By the time he was introduced to Ken Falke in late 2013, Josh had begun to find his footing again. Their first conversation stretched for ten hours, two men approaching the same problem from different paths, aligned in a shared belief that what veterans needed wasn’t just treatment, but transformation. Shortly after, Josh moved to Virginia, committing himself fully to Boulder Crest’s mission.
At Boulder Crest, Josh found what he had been searching for: a philosophy and a practice rooted in the belief that struggle can be the starting point for growth.
Posttraumatic Growth (PTG) wasn’t about erasing pain, but about transforming it into strength, purpose, and connection. It resonated with everything he had lived.